Becoming convinced that, for those living in God’s grace, boundaries ought to be about love vs. selfishness and not safety vs. vulnerability. Boundaries for our country and for our hearts.
Because God commands us to love Him with our all and to love others as ourselves (Matthew 22:34-38). This is what honors God. pleases God. this is what God designed me to do.
And because when we make boundaries about safety vs. vulnerability we’re really making them about fear.
“… for God did not give us a spirit of fear but of power and love and self-control” (2 Timothy 1:7, ESV). We have no excuses. God has given us the power, love, and self-control to live the lives He called us to.
Knowing God leads to love perfected. Perfect love casts out fear. (1 John 4:13-19). So the thing is, we make boundaries out of fear because we don’t know God. Because deep down our motives for our boundaries are that we think the evil and hurt in the world are bigger than our God. And sometimes we think we need to make up for what God cannot do.
But if we’re to know God; to have love perfected in us; and to live in the power, love, and self-control God’s provided us, then our boundaries should be based off of these things.
Yeah, boundaries are good, but good things done without love are worthless (1 Corinthians 13:1-3). Our boundaries ought to be based on perfected love (described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, Romans 12:9-11, 1 Peter 4:7-21). Sometimes it’s reaching out. Sometimes it’s creating distance. It’s always what’s ultimately best for the other.
“In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.” 1 Peter 4:10-12, ESV
God loved us first.
God’s love invaded our world and is invading our hearts. Grace.
God is invisible.
But when we love first,
when love others through how we set up our boundaries
(for our country and our hearts),
we show the world the invisible God
Who lives in us.